Why not start this month on a positive note and make some goals?
-Helpful, RECOVERY goals. Not Ed goals like "Loose weight" or anything like that. These are POSITIVE goals that are working towards building up your self esteem, making you feel better about yourself, proving to yourself that you can achieve and you are strong.
Ignore what happened yesterday or the day before. Ignore what the last week, month, year has been like. The past is gone now, and we can never change it. But we ARE in control of our future, and if thing look like they could go downhill, we can change that. Just start a fresh, learn from your mistakes and move past them.
"Don't let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future take away from the happiness of your present"
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Set yourself some goals for this month. What would you like to achieve? What have you been struggling with recently and how can you challenge that?
To give you an idea, I'll post my October goals below:
My October Goals:
- To get to the 80th percentile weight for height so that I can go back to school
- To challenge myself to at least one fear food a week this month, so that's FOUR fear foods
- To keep a short diary every day about how I'm feeling/ what I'm thinking about
- Write a positive fact about myself each day for a month! (I'm going to find this one so hard)
- Enjoy Halloween and don't let food spoil it- enjoy yourself and don't count calories. If you get upset you haven't failed, just try to relax. Try to eat at least one Halloween sweet or chocolate!
I know that I'm going to find each and every one of those a challenge for different reasons. But you know what? ALL of those goals are achievable, and I've given myself plenty of time to achieve them.
Now it's your turn!..
Make sure that the goals you write down aren't massive and scary to look at, make sure they are achievable goals that don't make you want to cry by looking at them. they should be designed to be a challenge, true, but they should also be designed to be reachable goals- NOT something that you feel you'll never be able to achieve! Though mine are hard I will try really, really hard and I think I can do it.
Giving yourself goals and something to work towards can be really helpful. Not only does it give you a sense of achievement and pride, but if you keep setting yourself small, reachable goals, gradually you will build up and over time you'll be able to look back and realise how far you've come. Small, steady steps in the right direction. There are no "quick fixes" to eating disorders or other mental health recovery, but that doesn't mean it's not possible. It just takes time.
Hannah xox
